This is the time when the kids will adapt from observing us on how we, as mature adults, handle life situations in any given crisis.
Nikita P.
“Huh… When will this pandemic end? When will someone find a cure to this? When can I go out of my house without any fear? When??“
These questions have been juggling in and out of our minds and yet we can’t find an answer to them. We are living in such crisis where the daily routine has been hampered.
These days, we see and forward viral videos on how to stay sane and positive at such times, but does that really help?
Being a parent of 3 kids, I personally have experienced mixed emotions especially now. Frustration being the topmost in the list. Things seem all the more burdensome at times. I am sure many can relate to it. However, as days passed I have realized that just like us adults, the kids might be going through the same set of emotions which might have gone unnoticed while dealing with our own. So the question here is how to understand our kids in such crisis?
There may not be a specific answer to this as it may vary from parent to parent. Everyone is trying their best to keep up in such unprecedented crisis that the world is experiencing right now. I am sure every parent is trying to create more awareness amongst their children by wanting them to spend this quarantine time to the best, making them join virtual classes, taking their help with minor daily chores and so on..
When it comes to parenting there is no such right or wrong approach, but here in such situation we as parents should become consciously aware and be mindful of the needs of our kids while equally balancing our emotional state. It’s easier said than done and I know that it sounds complicated, but just consciously thinking of the above will ease all the problems.
This is the time when the kids will adapt from observing us on how we, as mature adults, handle life situations in any given crisis. Children are great observers and they reciprocate simply through observation – how to stay focused, how to be tolerant, how to handle frustration levels and so on. If we as parents grasp the right approach, the kids are more likely to imitate the behavior when they find themselves in a similar predicament. Isn’t this what we all
expect from our kids when they grow up? To be sane and not panicky? There is no magic where the kids can inculcate such skills in a snap of the finger. These are “Learned behaviors”.
Experiences help in developing learned behaviors. For instance learning the skill of “Talking“. Toddlers imitate and learn to talk by just observing people around them. Similarly anger is an another example of learned behavior. Where do you think the child learns to throw tantrums from? You don’t teach them directly and yet they learn it from their senses.
I totally understand it is hard to maintain peace within ourselves given the pressure we handle from all sides, but then I feel this is the right time to showcase our attitudes the right way and become their role model.
I am sure lot of hidden talents have emerged out of people which they never thought they had. I personally have experienced and learnt over the past few weeks that listening and watching over your kids is also a talent.
“Happy kids, Happy Parents!”
I empathise with all the parents for their selfless efforts ❤️
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